In my most recent T search, here are the stats:

Met 3 Ts in person (excluding current T). Of the 3 --
Did 2 sessions with 2 Ts;
1 session with 1 T;

Cancelled the next session with the 2 Ts (with who I did 2 sessions each) over email.

One was very gracious -- I'd actually been a bit weird and first said I'd start with her (before I realized there was a major red flag [mostly due to my pickiness]) before canceling. She replied that it's totally fine, great meeting with me blah blah.

The other T I cancelled with (after 2 sessions) wrote back a bit of (what I thought was) a passive-aggressive response -- "Good luck finding what you're looking for". She'd also been weirdly invested + disinvested in me in a way that I still can't quite put my finger on. She'd first said (before meeting me) that she wanted to talk to me over the phone -- so, when we spoke on the phone she said "We will BOTH TOGETHER [emphasis mine] decide whether to continue or not" (I was mostly like "Lady, you ain't interfering in any decision I make about you"!).

And, when I met with her, she was all over the place and chatting with me about random stuff (non-therapy related) but at the same time was also kinda dismissive and minimizing of stuff I said (especially about my former T).

Similarly, she was totally fine at first about my taking the time to check out other Ts (at the time that I made a second appointment with her) but then for whatever the reason, she seemed to forget that I'd made a second appointment -- so, she went into a long spiel on the day of the appointment on how she wanted to tell me stuff and give stuff to me even if I decided not to continue with her because she thought that it was important that I have it blah blah. It was weird.

And, none of the stuff she wanted to give me was remotely insightful -- her big "insight" seemed to be that I have complex PTSD and so apparently, the only way I could've dealt with the stuff that's happened is by dissociating a lot. Ergo, any semblance of functionality I show is a product of near-constant dissociation. And, consequently, the fact that I'm "functional" means there's a "lot of bad stuff inside" (her exact words). I was like umm...okay, maybe I should roll around on your floor wailing and refuse to leave or something for you to think I'm normal?!

Okay, I'll quit venting here -- it was just bizarre! And, she'd struck me as sane and solid (more than 3 decades of experience) when I first looked at her profile etc. Or, maybe I just have ridiculously high standards.

The other T I met with for just one session -- I just left the session saying that I'll think about it and get in touch if I want to (I never did). He was way kookier than the rest.

Another T I spoke to on the phone (she insisted on a phone conversation first) -- at the end of it I was like "Yeah, no" (she looks fantastic on paper but seemed truly tone deaf) but didn't say so (ended up making an appointment because you know, I hate confrontation). But, then emailed later to cancel it -- she was pretty nice about it.

A bunch of other Ts -- just emailed to figure stuff out and cancelled in a couple of cases after making appointments when I read up more about them (in one case, one dude had weird, creepy stuff written about him!).

The whole T search requires a ton of humor I tell you. It's disheartening and paradoxically, best done when you actually don't need to do it.