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Originally Posted by Myrto
I've had a big rupture a month ago: my therapist told me I was harassing her and she completely changed her boundaries. I'm no longer allowed to email and if I do, she'll cancel the next session. I've tried to find another therapist but they were either too expensive for me or didn't have any available slots. I went to see one other therapist and when I called to make a new appointment (left a message), she never called me back. So I gave up and decided to stay with my current therapist. Where else would I go? She acts like nothing happened so is this even a rupture? I think we are never going to fix this because she is never going to acknowledge that what she did was wrong. Ruptures can be talked through but if one party acts like it wasn't even a rupture, well, what can you do?
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I think it can definitely be a rupture even if the T doesn't think anything happened. If it's upsetting you and negatively affecting your relationship with and trust in your T, then it sounds like a rupture to me. I'm sorry you haven't had luck finding a new T. Maybe try the one who didn't call back again--could be the message never got to her or something. Yours just sounds so punitive with the whole "If you e-mail me, I'll cancel the next session" thing. I don't see how that's helpful.