I usually know straight away if I can work with someone or not. It only takes one session. I am sorry you are finding it hard with your new t Growly. Sounds as though this relationship is triggering something important for you. He is different from the others but perhaps this could be a good thing if you could earn to tolerate and accept him. I am wondering if his illness is triggering this fear and you want to run away before you get too attached? It might be something you could work on with him, should you decide to stay.