I have felt like this a lot with all of my ts and I learned that I allow them to speak over me or dismiss me, I was repeating childhood patterns with my mother. I havent managed to get passed it with any of them yet but I have learned that I am important and that I need to express my opinions. I learned how to express my truth with this t because she frustrated me so much that I couldnt contain my disappointment anymore. So now when she doesnt get what I am saying I will tell her that is not what I meant and that actually you didnt really hear what I was saying. she usually says something like thats because of the way I communicate, and perhaps it is but now I am stronger and I can tell her.