I have been to counseling twice, now, and I really am sure that there was nothing physical. I just plain told hubby that I didn't want anyone elses ugly germs, and if that would happen, I would want to see my doctor like right now!! He was angry and so was I. He was angry because I was checking up on him, really looking through things in our house and cars, his shop. So what, everything here is ours and I told him he could look through my purse, on the computer, in drawers, wherever. I have nothing to hide. I am not going anywhere, have planned Thanksgiving dinner with the family at our house, etc. The rules for me are that she never lays her hands on him again, never comes to our home again, and she best stay out of my sight. I will go to his company Christmas party with him like always, and if she offers a hand or a hug, I will loudly say, Keep your hands off of my man!! Plain and simple.I have 31 years invested in this man that I dearly love. I am glad that we had this party and this came to my attention. I know that he feels pretty foolish, and I guess she and her friend, who is another divorcee, are not speaking to him at all now. All I can say is "Good" If she makes a move in the wrong direction, it could cost her job, because this company does not screw around! I have said nothing, but I am capable!!!