I tend to think that unless there's an immediate positive reaction--and objective reasons to trust that response--that it's best to be rather self-contained and analytical about this decision. I would not think it was productive to get wrapped up in speculations or offer undue considerations to find justification for negative behaviors. The reasons for any behavior don't really matter because understandable or not, those behaviors will still be an impediment to getting what you need. It's all fine to be sympathetic, but that doesn't obligate you to take on a burden that needn't exist. It's a balance between positives and negatives--which is where the analytical perspective comes into play. If the positives significantly outweigh the negatives--especially in the context of pragmatic concerns--then adjustments won't impinge on you. But if not, then I think those negatives will continue to impinge on the experience and eventually limit progress or become an increasing burden.