I tend to know right away if I want to work with a T.

Last time when looking for a T, I contacted one I thought I'd like to work with. But she transferred me to someone else who works for her. That T only lasted 2 sessions. There were too many issues right off the bat. She was judgmental, she was a religious T, she considered herself "motherly", and she gave "side hugs". She was also too close to ex-T.

Then I found current T and I knew she was the one. We had a very rough start: she double booked my first appt, figuring out boundaries was really hard, and she just wasn't listening to me. I actually started T shopping and told her. But I didn't find someone else I liked, and I still felt she was the one for me. So we worked on the relationship, things changed, and I'm happy I stuck it out.

But T says my instant reaction to choosing people isn't the best thing for me. For some reason it's like an attachment radar. She doesn't want me using it in the future. She says that I'm going to develop an attachment no matter what (if I like the person), but using my instinct pretty much equals instant attachment which means over attachment. However, she thinks it will be fine when I meet friends because it's okay to get attached to friends. But with professionals I need to learn healthy boundaries.

So if/when I get another T, I'm supposed to look for one I'm not instantly drawn to. That mean that I probably have to sit and work through the relationship in order to develop that connection. I probably shouldn't quit after just a few sessions. It will be hard, but we'll see.

I still think that instant reactiins can play a big role. If you really don't feel like this is the T for you, if you really feel like there will be no benefit, then don't waste your time on him. However, I would see him one more time to address your concerns. If after you do and you still don't feel it's right, just move on.