Scarlet thank you for this. There is something to that method of picking a t. I liken it to picking out a puppy or kitten in that you aren't supposed to pick one cowering in the corner or the one that comes boldly running up to you. The one happily in the middle is the best bet. I kind of feel the same about t shopping. I want to feel mildly positive upon meeting them. I worried with Kashi that my initial response was too positive. Now I'm having a strongly negative reaction to being forgotten about. I wish the swings weren't so extreme. Over the years they haven't been with the two other t's do it feels like regression in me