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Old Oct 25, 2007, 08:53 AM
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Rapunzel said:
p.s. I was no good at cleaning, taking care of the kids, and I've never been all that interested in sex. If you can clean the house and take care of the kids, I'm pretty impressed with people who can do those things well. That's an extremely important job, not useless at all. But I couldn't do it anymore and had to get out and do something else. I'm still married and still have kids, but we try to divide the work a little more, and get the kids to help out more, and I have a job and go to school.

If you are able to do the mom job, I think that is a wonderful accomplishment. But if that isn't fulfilling for you, maybe it would help you to find other roles that work better for you.

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You were not too harsh. I think I needed that infact. Fine so not all women are useless. I guess it's just me and I project my feelings onto an entire gender.

I am sorry about your brother. I know how horrible he must have felt. It is very hard to live like this, but I push myslef to keep going if not for me, for my family. I cannot abandon my husband and son. So I have to keep on for them. If it was just me, it would be a different story. Not only does a person with schizophrenia often feel depressed and useless, but the other problems with delusions, hallucinations and in my case paranoia are unbareable at times. Not to mention that stigma of being "mentally ill". Oh no! He or She is a lunatic! People shy away when they find that out. This is why I hide my illness from everyone except my husband. Your brother must have felt so alone.

As far as the mom job for me, it's full time. My son has Asperger's syndrome and it's tough on everyone. He is not the normal five year old, so he gives me a real run for the money most days. AS for finding something more? Well, I was never very good at holding a job, I cannot concentrate for long enough. I also have little motivation. School? Forget it. I canot bring myself to actually read the materials requested. I always struggled with school and work. So Mom seems to fit best to me at the moment.

Anyway, sorry for the long post. I just wanted to say thank you to you.

PS: I am not too good cleaning either. I only do it so I don't have to live in filth.