Let's just call it what it is. If you come out of an experience like this with torturous, obsessive, looping thoughts, you have been traumatized. The limbic system has probably been thrown into dysregulation, some survival fear has been exposed, crippling shame, etc.

For me an essential part of coping is rejecting all the hedging and rationalizing, and not heeding the bulls**t messages that get unconsciously repeated -- get over it, it's about your "issues", you need more therapy.

Re: Yelp, the way I see it, therapists who harm clients need to suffer consequences. It needs to be documented. Emails can be ignored and deleted, Yelp reviews cannot. Yelp is a consumer review site. Therapy clients are consumers. I think it's bad enough that therapists enjoy so many protections within their own system, but somehow they've also managed to persuade clients to not leave reviews, and to funnel all feedback through the therapy system, where, again, they control the narrative. Sorry, i'll shut up about this now.