And yet the style of clothes you are wearing in the photos are very 'girl next door'. Your hair and glasses are a funky style, but it strikes me that your clothes aren't. That's why I brought up the sexier black outfit.

I had a punk BF in the 80's and he said I dressed like Little Bo Peep. Eventually I started dressing like I belonged with him. But, I have BPD traits and tend to become like whoever I'm with...

I'd say you are looking for a guy who is as into the music as you are and who shares your values.

Truth be told, you are 29 and only get paid a little or not at all for your articles. Are your parents supporting you? You are going to have some explaining to do when you do start dating these guys. What do you have to contribute?

You might want to find a guy that you can work with. Maybe someone who is a band manager and you can be the band promoter or an assistant to him.

Basically, you are going to have to work in one way or another. If you are 29, not working, and don't want to have children, what are you going to do?