I don't work and I have had lovers who live anywhere from 10 hrs to 2 hrs away...and across the ocean...and none of us ever had this kind of contact, all day, any hour of the day. you come across as very obsessive. Even with two of the guys who also didn't work, we had sleep schedules, outside activities, family...esp for those of us with bipolar, sleep is a major thing to keep us healthy. You are on a mental health website...is there possibly a chance that (if you have a disorder) you are in an episode of some sort that leads you to behave this way? perhaps you should be calling your dr?
It would never occur to me to text/email/call one of my lovers in the wee hours of the night, esp if I knew he had to get up for work (one gets up at 430am) How freakin rude of me would that be? and I would be dumped in a heartbeat I assure you. It would have to be a dire emergency and in any case, at more than a half hour away, there is no emergency he would be able to help me with anyway. That's what my family and local friends are for.

Perhaps look at the posts you have made in recent weeks and see if there is a recurring theme that needs evaluated?