Thank you Allheart ❤️that was a really lovely post. I either see t as good t or bad t and it is important to see both sides of her and to honour them both, they co exist together. She is human and never apologises for that.
You have a really good understanding of the complexity of the therapeutic relationship and how fragile it can be at times. It's easy to walk away from new t because there is no attachment but there was atone when my t was very kind and compassionate and I think the circumstances in her life prevent that now and that makes me very sad to realise she is hurting and going through her own trauma.