I have always gotten on OK with his mother. She is unbelievably strict with him though, considering his age. He is 20 and lives with her at home still. My mental illness makes it difficult for me to travel so ask him to come to mine, he says he has to ask her and sometimes, she actually says no. It makes me so infuriated that she treats him so childishly and he doesn't seem to know there's a problem. Sometimes he isn't ''allowed" into his room because it's noisy, apparently.

He can sometimes be very immature. I feel like this is a result of how she is with him. He is a lovely guy though and love him immensely. I just don't know how to deal with this situation.