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Originally Posted by unaluna
Werent you always negative and kinda yelling at her anyway? So what exactly do you miss? The opportunity to yell at her? Thats how my mother wanted to connect with me, thru pain, but honestly i just couldnt take it anymore. Its probably not just your t you do that with - the closer you are, maybe the more "honest" you are? But those close to you deserve politeness the most, not strangers. Others may disagree with me, but hey walk a mile in my shoes.
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I don't know about Myrto but this definitely struck a chord with me.
But if that was the case somewhat for me, why did no T ever bring that up? Instead, in the early days, they encouraged me to be honest. I had numbed out some responses to my mother's rage -- maybe we did connect on that level. Maybe she was never "herself" much with me interpersonally except when she was enraged. But she also enjoyed nature and sharing that with me and my sister -- not totally negative.
It's a useful concept, Unaluna. But if accurate, another limitation of many therapists that they can't recognize it and help the person through it, IMHO.