My first thoughts were this is a case of a momma's boy; one with attachment issues to and from mom; one who's relationship with mom has led to a failure to be self-reliant.

But then, it occured to me that mom may have a very good reason. It could be that she does in fact expect some responsibility and sef-reliance out of him.

Does he work, does he pay rent? There is a viewpoint out there too of my-house-my-rules.

Regarding his mom saying of 'no' to him... what is his mode of transportation? Is'no' related to not being given use of a family car? Had he a previous committment? Perhaps he had a responsibility he was expected to complete?

One of mine came back temporarily. She paid rent, but also had responsiblities around the home. In addition she was occasionally granted use of a car. However I expected her duties to be complete beforehand.