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Originally Posted by BudFox
Let's just call it what it is. If you come out of an experience like this with torturous, obsessive, looping thoughts, you have been traumatized. The limbic system has probably been thrown into dysregulation, some survival fear has been exposed, crippling shame, etc.
For me an essential part of coping is rejecting all the hedging and rationalizing, and not heeding the bulls**t messages that get unconsciously repeated -- get over it, it's about your "issues", you need more therapy.
Re: Yelp, the way I see it, therapists who harm clients need to suffer consequences. It needs to be documented. Emails can be ignored and deleted, Yelp reviews cannot. Yelp is a consumer review site. Therapy clients are consumers. I think it's bad enough that therapists enjoy so many protections within their own system, but somehow they've also managed to persuade clients to not leave reviews, and to funnel all feedback through the therapy system, where, again, they control the narrative. Sorry, i'll shut up about this now.
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It is trauma, I completely agree with you there. Another trauma to add to my list, incurred in therapy of all places! However, I think I'm seeing things differently than you because I pinpoint the trauma being down to the incompetency of the therapist and therapy ending too soon due to stupid policies about the duration of therapy which must be adhered to. It is all well and good therapy bringing out unconscious thoughts and feelings, transference and unmet infantile needs, but when the therapist is unskilled in dealing with this, shuts the client down when they bring it up for discussion, or tries to pretend it's not happening to avoid the topic altogether, that's what causes the trauma in my opinion. That and pushing the client out of the door before they're ready to leave due to policies and the idea that they will become "dependent" on the therapist. This can happen, I've no doubt, but rather than push the client away the therapist should be exploring the reason for the dependency with the client and termination should not be happening (in my opinion anyway) until the client has built up enough resilience, relationships and coping strategies to be able to sustain themselves without the therapist. This is why I haven't given up on therapy altogether because I believe good therapy can happen; you just need a good therapist, and unfortunately, as we know, there are many out there who aren't.
p.s. I will give Yelp some more thought. I get what you're saying, I really do, but there's something about it that doesn't sit well with me. Will update again when I've had time to think.