Like you I have the observing/split thing going on. And sometimes I know what I am supposed to feel, so I say I feel that - without actually feeling that. So none of these help much when they ask me, as 2 and 3 do, "where do you feel that in your body?"

Some of my emotions are easy to read - sadness, anger - but I often get, even from therapists, a comment like "Your affect is very hard to read." On the whole I like that, but learning to put it aside at times would no doubt be useful.