This is something that I am going through currently. I also think it takes a strong T and have wondered sometimes whether my T is strong enough. She shows alot of anxiety around my wellbeing, sometimes to the extent that I think she needs reassurance as much as I do, that she is doing the right thing for me.

Having said that, she has been steady, calm and consistent all these years. She has allowed me to contact her whenever I need her out of session, allowed me to send lengthy emails free of charge, to which she consistently responds, even if I have been critical about her or told her she just doesn't understand. Sometimes I feel her boundaries should be a little tighter and this would benefit me, other times I think I need her to be a bit flexible with boundaries because of my issues.

I know I have changed alot over the years in my real life in friendships and relationships and put this down to the constant support I have had and solid acceptance that T has shown me however I have behaved. This has filled a big void for me. Just the unconditional support and love.