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Old Oct 05, 2016, 12:23 PM
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Originally Posted by Laura Palmer View Post
So, I met him online. He was really flirty from the get go and I was interested in getting to know him better with the potential for a relationship after some time of getting to know each other. But after a week of knowing him, he's been telling me that he misses me when we go 12 hours without talking and that he loves me. He asked me to be his girlfriend, and I politely declined because I want to get to know him longer before we get into that. But he keeps telling me he loves me, which is a red flag given the short length of being aware of each other's existence. He says that his heart races and he is really happy when he talks to me. I wonder if he thinks I'm naive.

I want to give him the benefit of the doubt and he is getting carried away with mere infatuation or puppy love. But he's gone on about how he doesn't like the conservative culture surrounding sex in his home country, and therefor wants an American girl to marry so he can avoid that.

I really enjoy talking to him but I'm worried that he's just looking for sex, or that he's desperate and trying to settle down with the first woman he can get. I'm attracted to him but as far as I'm concerned we're still in the friend stage, and I don't want to move into "I love yous" and promises about forever so quickly.

any thoughts?
Two reasons to walk away.

First, he is not thinking you're naïve and truly thinks he's in love with you. That is a red flag already. No one is going to be able to love someone after a week. He may mistake infatuation for love and that might be true but it is also a sign of emotional immaturity which is going to lead to a lot of problems right there.

Second you're right, he just wants sex and all the other stuff you mentioned. Well you know why that's bad lol.

So either case, in my opinion it's not a good thing for someone to be so clingy in the first place, let alone after a week.
Thanks for this!
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