I've read this article at least three times and like it so much, I thought I'd start a discussion here. Its from a psych central author, Peg Streep. I've tried to read her book mean mothers. It was very difficult, as you can imagine if you know my story. Nevertheless, she is a good writer.
Here is a link to the article.
Why Unloved Daughters Fall for Narcissists | Knotted: The Mother-Daughter Relationship
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Of the three kinds of insecure attachment—anxious/preoccupied, fearful avoidant, and dismissive avoidant—the anxiously attached and fearful avoidant daughters are more likely to be ensnared in the narcissist’s trap. The anxious daughter is a bundle of neediness, on the one hand, and in a perpetual state of high alert, on the other. She’s hypervigilant about being disappointed or betrayed so she’s always testing to see if her lover really loves her. She’s a roller-coaster of emotion—seguing from need to panic and anger—and extremely vulnerable. The fearful avoidant has a low opinion of herself and a high opinion of others and she’s prone to self-armoring, pushing off when she thinks she needs to protect herself, even though she wants and craves closeness.
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I don't know if any of you have taken the personality test where you see your attachment style, but I highly recommend it.
Can any of you relate to this article or this post?
I know for myself I met my ex husband when I was just 20 and although I get along with him now that was the result of divorcing him, and getting professional help for myself. I had c-ptsd by the time my marriage was over as the result of my childhood.
I definitely don't want to make the same mistake twice which is why I'm reading as much as I can now about narcissism and delving deep into my past.