This is just it: you don't have to explain yourself. I think everyone here understands that your parents fear you driving and so you don't.

I don't think anyone is criticizing you--they are merely saying: the world, and people, operate in certain ways, whether we like it or not.

It's as if you're saying, "I want to stick my head in a bear's mouth and know I'm not going to get hurt," and everyone's telling you, the world doesn't work that way, and you respond with, "Yes, but how many times do I have to tell you I WANT to! So tell me how!"

As long as you live at home, don't have a job, and don't drive, you have a much more limited number of men who will be drawn to share a life with you. All the explanations in the world don't change that fact.

So continue dating and not driving, accepting that is a limiting factor, OR...tell your parents you are an adult and they can't wrap you in cotton until you die of old age, because if indeed your not driving is due to them, they are infantilizing you, and this attitude that you'll surely get hurt if you behave like every other adult, and protecting you into child-like dependency that is harming you, is probably a huge part of your depression and anxiety.

By all means, trim the bangs and soften them up a bit and get smaller glasses, but I think people here are telling you, you're looking at the wrong things.