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Old Oct 05, 2016, 01:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Lauliza View Post
Attachment disorders are only diagnosed in children. Once your an adult, if it's severe enough and there was never any help, the attachment disorder could morph into a personality disorder.

There's certainly room for change, it just involves a lot of insight and effort. Attachment styles are ingrained in us from childhood and become part of who we are and how we relate on an unconscious level. So to change them in an absolute sense is probably unlikely and any therapist who claims they can do this is very irresponsible if not an outright liar.

I'm sure think some relational patterns can be changed if that's what someone wants to do and they are really motivated. You just need to be equipped with the tools to do so, whether it be therapy or something else. The younger one is, the easier I imagine it would be since less time has been devoted to interacting and behaving a certain way. I hate to think anything is impossible, but changing an attachment style in its entirety, after a certain point in time, probably is.
Yes, I think it's fair to say that my attachment issues morphed into a personality disorder -- probably OCPD, most recently diagnosed PDNOS. And I was determined -- compulsed/obsessed? -- with getting "well" before the PDNOS was diagnosed so the motivation has been there but I didn't know what was really "wrong". If any therapist did, they didn't tell me until the last one and . . .well, that therapy started when I was 63, so . . .

ETA: it probably sounds like I'm just complaining, and I AM complaining, but as I've said before I think there are a lot of us out here who have been hurt, or at least not helped to the tune of a lot of money, by therapy and there's no one counting, no place to go to give our feedback. So thanks for the opportunity to have my say.

Last edited by here today; Oct 05, 2016 at 02:01 PM. Reason: added something
Thanks for this!
Lauliza