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He wants to hold me down from this point....I feel like he wants me to fit into his future plans and give mine up...
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This is a major concern. This is what controlling abusers do. They get angry and they gradually take away more and more of your freedom, more and more of your own plans, more and more of your own self.
Is he still considered "visiting" you--how long does he have legal authority to stay in the United States? One possibility you should imho consider is whether he wants to marry you so as to obtain a Green Card or US citizenship.
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Yet he gets angry even though I've told him multiple times since the beginning that I'm too young to decide and that I need to go to college and figure out what I want to do with my life.
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Good response! Stick to your guns!
He was a good guy abroad, but he is not a good guy in this country. What if you set aside your experience with him abroad for a moment and just look at the relationship in the United States. What do you like about him?