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Old Oct 05, 2016, 05:53 PM
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Yes, I think it's fair to say that my attachment issues morphed into a personality disorder -- probably OCPD, most recently diagnosed PDNOS. And I was determined -- compulsed/obsessed? -- with getting "well" before the PDNOS was diagnosed so the motivation has been there but I didn't know what was really "wrong". If any therapist did, they didn't tell me until the last one and . . .well, that therapy started when I was 63, so . . .

ETA: it probably sounds like I'm just complaining, and I AM complaining, but as I've said before I think there are a lot of us out here who have been hurt, or at least not helped to the tune of a lot of money, by therapy and there's no one counting, no place to go to give our feedback. So thanks for the opportunity to have my say.

I think even the most motivated people will really struggle with this, especially where it tends to be seen from a very black and white perspective. With enough work I think an insecurely attached person could learn to form secure attachments with some people, even if it goes against their natural instincts.
Thanks for this!
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