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Old Oct 05, 2016, 10:00 PM
UglyDucky UglyDucky is offline
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I’m not challenging the idea of attachment in children and attachment styles. Those have been well-documented. Just the idea that less-than-secure attachments can be corrected in adulthood by a relationship with a therapist.

Didn’t work for me. And left me worse off than when I started. Eventually I have made it through things. But it sounds like it continues to hurt others in this forum, too.

20 years ago there was a fad of “repressed memories” that proved largely bogus. And I remember “Primal Scream” and rebirthing therapies from years ago.

Searching the internet for “attachment therapy” I found some very harmful therapies for children that have now been largely, I guess, discredited.

What do you all think? And if it works for some, but is harmful to others, what warnings and disclaimers do you think might help adult clients when they are considering the “attachment disorder” idea?
My T uses attachment as a way to develop trust and closeness in clients - not specifically using attachment therapy, if there's a difference. For me, it's been amazingly helpful, though not easy. I have a personality disorder w/avoidant features. These avoidant features are what I want to change. My T asked several times early in if I was comfortable being isolated or socially limited. I said no, I wanted to develop close relationships, but didn't know how. T told me that his therapy style would be different if I was happy being just as I am; it was perfectly valid if I didn't want to change my life style. If my T hadn't encouraged the development of attachment, I would have wasted the past year. I agree w/many people that it takes a strong T to carry attachment therapy or therapy using attachment off successfully. The T must be available to the client nearly constantly, allowing emails, texts, calls, and be able to tolerate the dependency that the client develops. Perhaps the "failed" or unsuccessful/harmful results of attachment therapy has more to do with the therapist than the therapy itself; I don't know what you've read. I'm pretty sure all types of therapy have been discredited or pronounced as harmful at some point.

I don't know what warnings or disclaimers might be helpful to clients thinking of going through this type of therapy. If the T specifically advertises they use attachment therapy, they should indicate that the client might feel uncomfortable in a close relationship, or a relationship in which the client may need to depend upon the therapist and the therapist's judgement; there may be intense feelings of neediness, which will be addressed in sessions. Hopefully, the client will have read something about attachment therapy prior to jumping into the deep end. I knew nothing about attachment, but using attachment in my therapy has not been harmful or bogus...IMO.
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