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Old Oct 05, 2016, 10:36 PM
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Originally Posted by butterfly24 View Post
This is just it: you don't have to explain yourself. I think everyone here understands that your parents fear you driving and so you don't.

I don't think anyone is criticizing you--they are merely saying: the world, and people, operate in certain ways, whether we like it or not.

they are infantilizing you, and this attitude that you'll surely get hurt if you behave like every other adult, and protecting you into child-like dependency that is harming you, is probably a huge part of your depression and anxiety.
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I'd reread this part to allow it to sink in.

I don't believe you aren't attractive. I believe it was suggested to accentuate your curves?

I do feel that the oppressive homelife compounds any critiques, by virtue of hearing No, too often in your personal life. It's really complex how any dysfunction with family of origin and upbringing can seep out in how we see others as seeing us.

I was an only child to my mom. Gosh, the ties that bind as far as attempts to spread my wings. It resulted in a simmered anger of resentment and frustration with the world. Worth mulling over, to be honest.

And I am diagnosed with depression and anxiety. It's not all fear, anxiety, that is. Some is akin to bottled up stress.
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