To echo BudFox's word, what has done to you is unconscionable.

Thanks for sharing the story. You seem too nice to care about the trigger, the code is for suckers, any one of us can pull it 'cuz nobody else knows what's in our clips, in the chambers. You're the hope, the hope for a new chamber of commerce.

As I see it, your marriage was violated, f-ed over by these thugs, leaving you bamboozled. I'm really sorry for what happened to you.