It is difficult for me to weed out if my father's "concern" is genuine or simply an expression to save face on his public image. I feel like I don't know him anymore. Now that the blinders are off, regarding his personality, how do I decide to receive his statements and opinions? He is 75 and I am 51. He needs to be needed and our mother always enforced his decisions and opinions as being top priority. We never had a voice. How do I develop a voice so late in life?