I knew that i loved my T - in the same way one can love any other person - when i saw how much she genuinly cared for me. The way she would lean in closer if i was upset, or offer a hug, a kind comment, or just this look she had in her eyes. I also knew because of the amount i trusted her. How i looked forward to hearing from her, seeing her, and just hearing about how she is doing - as a person.

I also never really knew a whole lot about personal relationships like that until around the time i was seeing her, and so she also taught me a lot about love, just by being there with me, and showing me what it's like when one person cares for another.

I don't love her BECAUSE she was my T, I love her because of the person that she is, and the relationship that we built in session, and afterwards when I had to stop seeing her.

She taught me about love, life, and myself, and for that I will never forget her impact in my life.

I also realise that my situation with her was probably very different from other people's relationships with T's. Ours wasn't so much "professional" as it was just one woman helping another. I think it really depends on the situation, and for some people, that level of "love" doesn't necessarily arise because of the circumstances (boundaries set by the T, amount of contact, etc).

Just because you may not "love" your T like others have said, doesn't mean your relationship is any less significant. Take courage and strength in the kind of relationship that you do have with him, and take comfort from the fact that everyone's relationships with their T's are going to vary.

hugs
Jacq