Thanks. Yes, the thing though is that I donīt know what to do or how to do things, like changing my negative thoughts about myself. I also think such issues are so complex that noone can find a straight answer about them but I though expect my T to try to change things about me that arenīt good for me.
CBT as in just telling me what to to from time to time hadnīt worked on me and I also feel for me it had been just like solving issues on the surface but not from the inside. But I though worry about the therapy Iīm in, if itīll all end up just stating faults and facts and not being able to do something about the issues.
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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
I think ruh roh and itisnt are right on. It seems to me that you are "stuck" at having recognized your issues but they aren't improving. Now is the time to do, not think. It doesn't matter if x during the week illustrates your negative self-image; it matters what you do about it.
It's like medical treatment. Say you have a heart attack. Your doctors save you, and then they give you a bunch of advice - lose weight, exercise more, whatever applies. It is up to you to do those things. The doctor just checks up on you occasionally. The doctor can't make you do the things that are good for you. Likewise your therapist can't make your negative self-image go away. That's your baby. She acts as a kind of anchor, a base to check in with. Some people say a mirror or a cheerleader.
Are you sure psychodynamic therapy is right for you? You seem sometimes to think that the therapist is an authority figure who should be training you. That's really not how psychodynamic therapy works (in my understanding). There are other types of therapy that will provide you with that model.
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