First off Ms.Ambrosia, bravo for you not feeling ashamed you own the book. I have a copy from the library, yet that's not good enough. So I'm planning on buying a copy. Oh and the "Mars and Venus on a Date" too. I feel just because someone doesn't like something, it's no reason for you to deprive yourself...as long as it's legal, lol. I'm that way with any reading material. I mean, who cares if someone thinks bad about it about or doesn't approve! If I want it I'm getting it. Period.
As a side note and this was funny to me. Long before meeting my honey, I found out my father has prostate cancer. So wanting information so it would put in a better position to understand my dad, I borrowed a book from the library. So I'm on a train on the way home, standing up and reading my book. No problem right? Are you kidding me? You should have seen my fellow passengers! They gasped, choked, gagged, etc! But why? All because me, a woman, was reading male stuff. Gimme a break! Get a life! I kept on reading. Oh well.

Anyway, he's in his cave. I will admit though that I'm having a complete fit! Yeah I know. John Gray says to not interfere as in wondering what he's doing, etc. Ok. So I'm not. Yet it's hard. Sooo hard. And I guess that's because as a woman I can only think as a woman (whattt...seriously?..I didnt know that...lol).
I have an online friend and it was she really who tipped me on this man cave thing. And now she's teaching me so much about it. We email each other every day, sometimes 2x a day, and i tell ya...she is so patient with me because there are times when I feel I want to say to him "forget you." And though she doesn't know him, when my bipolar, and OCD gets the best of me, so I start thinking of all kinds of crazy stupid stuff, she calls and calms me down, reasoning with me with reminders of what he used to say, and especially do such as have my back in the case of momma, (for instance, with what he said before he went into hiding about "I just want to reassure you that you have nothing to worry about regarding our relationship." Etc.
And she's right when I calm down and think rationally. For really, technically he began auditioning for the main character of Terri McMillan's book "Disappearing Acts" just last week..ok maybe a week and a half. Lol. Last night I "emailed" him a letter...a goodbye letter, saying, lol, how I love myself "some deep dark chocolate" yet I love medium chocolate too in the form of myself. Signed...Your chocolate kisses...but only if you still want a taste." Real stupid.
But my online friend? She had a fit! A complete fit!!! Calling me, emailing me "I REALLY hope you didn't send that letter!" I had to assure her, over and over that I didn't. She said "the thing is, neither you or I have any idea what our guys are going through, so we just have to be patient with them, and wait until they tell us what's up"

I even talked with an online counselor last night and she said basically the same thing, and this is someone who doesn't know me at all. When I mentioned how I'm thinking of forgetting the whole thing, she typed in, literally "Whoa! Not so fast..."

I've NEVER been through anything llike this. I'm not used to it. I have no patience. Yes I admit I'm spoiled. Years ago a girlfriend said one night "your problem is you're spoiled. These guys spoiled you. Gave you everything you cried and complained about." And she was right. Truly. Then she said "one day you're going to meet your match."
Well, it happened! And I'm having a boiling fit! Totally not used to it. Lol.