Well I will be completely honest. Based on your posts I've read, you seem to have kind of a generally negative outlook or perspective of men. Saying things like 'why can't guys be honest.." and in that same post you kind of stated that they 'all think that way' lumping all guys into a big ugly group. That's how it came off to me. Well to be honest, I don't know for sure but likely depending on how you talk to guys, those attitudes may be come apparent in your conversations, profile, messages etc to guys. It may actually affect how you are perceived.

the idea that you're on dating sites or online to find a guy to date and you're already talking about goals and how you know you don't want kids but you want marriage, I don't know if that's all laid out before them when you message them, but it's kind of very forward. Do this one step at a time. Everything does not need to be laid out on the table even before you've met or made a date.

I know for me if I wanted to date a girl, even if I am thinking sometime in my life I want to get married again, it's not the first thing on my mind when looking.

it could be a case of too much information.