Sometimes relationships work, sometimes they don't. That's a reality.

But what I don't get and not trying to get is why at the first, or even a couple of first sign of problems, the advice is "leave him or her." I have a problem with that.

Now I'm not talking about abuse, not at all. Hey, the absolute first even hint of abuse I'm out! There is no thinking about it, no talking about it. NOTHING! I'M GONE!

But what if there is a misunderstanding, hey, even an outright argument? You know what? I'll make it better. What if there's complete silence on a partners part? What then? Does that necessarily indicate you should leave? Why? What if, after talking it over with your "best friend, who knows you like a book, and says "honey you gotta leave that alone." Would you?

What if, because you mentioned that your partner hasn't called you in such and such whatever time, you get the advice that you need to forget him or her because "child he (or she) don't sound they care. If THAT WAS ME, I WOULDN'T DO IT."" Would you? Should you? Should you do your relationship based on someone else's opinion based on what THEY would/could handle or do?

Sometimes I read online relationship so-called "advice" and for the most part I am appalled! Most everything is one size fits all.

For example, let's take the matter of texting. It's a known fact on these sites that, in the case of a man, if he doesn't text, say in a day, then it means, according to them, that he doesn't care or has lost interest. Now I'm not going to say that isn't true, yet is it true in all cases? Not really. Or if he gives a one word response, ok maybe a two word response it shows his lack of interest. Sooo, since that's so according to the "experts" many a relationships has fallen off or failed.

There are so many other examples that could be mentioned that is not allowing people to think for themselves thus handle their relationships according to the way the parties involved sees fit. As a matter of fact, and I'm gonna say it, right here on this site I've already been given advice based on "not me" or "I wouldn't do it" etc. So with that advice this is what I say: WHO CARES!!!?

I say do what YOU feel is best for you and your partner!

If not, you'll find yourself throwing him or her away as if they're disposable diapers!!

PUL-LEASE! THINK FOR YOURSELVES PEOPLE!!