I think it depends on the person and situation.. I do find it helpful to talk to someone I trust to get an outsider's perspective into my situation, but of course, I'm the one who makes the final decision on my life.

I know there are things I'd never put up with that others do, and vice versa.. Some things I know from previous experience to be so hurtful and painful that I wouldn't want to go through them again. I also know there are people who would not walk away if faced with the same things..

In my experience, people actually most often do what they want in the end no matter what advice they get.. That's not to say people shouldn't give the advice if it's asked for. And of course, people are going to be talking from their own personal experience and viewpoint, that's all they've got, and no one can know the person asking better than they know themselves and what they can and cannot handle..

I often say, 'Well, this is what it sounds like to me, and this is what I'd do, but of course, you need to make your own choices and do what feels best for you..' I also usually remind people that no matter what I or they might think someone else's behaviour means, they won't know for sure unless they ask the person in question.. Unless this person would lie, of course.