Isn't erotic love still love? And I think you dare to be angry with him because the love you feel is too scary. So you get mad instead.

How will you know? I believe love shows itself in the little heart-smiles that thinking about a person brings and in the small aches we feel when we aren't with them. I think love surprises us with its strength, particularly around the strong drive to reconnect and for proximity. Mostly, I think love nudges us to think about what the other person might want, need or like and in therapy, that usually means being real and vulnerable in the midst of this love. The only thing there is to give in therapy is yourself and your honesty.

I am amazed sometimes at how I feel. Because as much as I struggle with the attachment and hate it that it feels like forever between sessions, the fact that I can feel like this is powerful and wonderful.

There are volumes of Poetry and Sonnets trying to capture the essence of love. What is it? How will I know?

I say just be quiet and listen to your heart. It already knows.