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Originally Posted by Waterbear
Do they trust her and do they talk easily to others? I had therapy as a kid, around 14 and I wouldn't talk. No, rephrase, couldn't talk to them about anything. I was in too deep. They used to say to me after 20 or 30 minutes that if I will couldn't talk then they couldn't help. I went every week and it was the same excrutiating agony for mW inside but on the outside I just sat in silence except for saying every now and again that I was fine.
My new T worked hard with me in the beginning even as an adult to help me to talk. Working creatively has been a real game changer this time around. Some Ts just don't know how to do it, some Ts are clueless. Some kids aren't ready for therapy.
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They're actually not bad. They do talk but it's almost as if you have to pull some of the information. With my oldest if you let him talk he will eventually give information. My youngest will bottle things up but and then eventually speak but that's after questioning him and explaining how helpful it'll be. My youngest wasn't going to tell me about his issue that he encountered with the girl but it took several questions and me telling him how I could be of help. I told him that I know him well and that I know that there's something wrong. Then finally he spoke. They like going to her and they'll question why she ends so quickly. They think that she's doesn't like them. I don't think that's true buts their interpretation due to her actions. Whenever she shortens the time or cancels then they think that she's grown tired or wants to get rid of them. I threw out some hints concerning this. I told her that they don't take cancellations well. She never addressed it with them. I thought it would've been a great opportunity for their therpeutic relationship for her to touch upon this subject as well and see why they feel that way but I don't know. Maybe with children the approach is different.