I don't know either. All I know is that I think if I had had a T who tried, who really tried, they would have got to the bottom of things for me and my life could have been so different. Instead I did it all on my own until I reached the stage that I was broken once again, and I say broken because I truly felt broken, that pieces of me would never be put together again, until I finally sought help once again and this time, with a T like I should have had before, I am feeling like the pieces are being put back together again.

Keep pushing her if you can, if it feels right and if not, maybe try someone else if there are any options. Above all, as you are doing, tell your kids that none of the Ts actions are because of them.

One more thing, and dismiss if it you will, becauer if I remember rightly this therapy is mandatory by the courts, but if your kids have you and they talk to you and they trust you and you are with them as you appear to be, do they really need a therapist to talk to? Kids don't nornally analyse things in the way adults do and in my opinion all they really need is to know someone is there for them, that someone cares about them, that someone loves them and has their best interests at heart, as you appear to do.

All the best.