
Oct 07, 2016, 03:25 AM
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Member Since: Jun 2016
Location: Australia
Posts: 285
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Originally Posted by Frankbtl
Hi Sula B
First of all I've got to really commend you on how considerate you've tried being to others
But as well, I've got to say that I see this as a real positive step forward.........your opinions, feelings, wishes, needs, goals do/ have got to matter at least just as much as other people's and it's good that you're recognising that you deserve something back too e.g. for your feelings to be valued, to feel some respect from others, to be treated better.............
And I am really sorry that you've been treated the way you have by others, some people can take advantage of, or not truly appreciate the kind of caring/support you've been so ready to give..........and that's completely their failing 
It says a lot more about them than it ever could about you 
Please don't let them deter you from continuing in showing consideration, caring, support towards others though...........there are plenty of genuine people out there who would never take advantage of or under appreciate that............just make sure you feel something genuine back from them though, and remember you matter too!!!
So ultimately Sula........ congratulations on this "dawning of a new day", and I hope it leads you to having much more valued and valuable people in your life 
Everyone deserves people like that in their lives..........
Alison
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Thankyou. It IS very difficult to get out from under your conditioning an one thing I've found is the more you do the ore you are expected to do and when you cant you're a selfish piece of crap apparently. You are right - I have to just give the metaphorical finger and move on.
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And if you can't help them at least don't hurt them.
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