You have to want to learn & grow up. If you really want to learn you will ask questions & you will LISTEN & LEARN from the answers.

If you dont have the desire to grow up & be independent it will NEVER happen. It comes from inside you. There may be more going on with you than JUST ADD/ADHD. It would be good to get into therapy to get down to the bottom of WHY you are so dependent on your mom& why you dont seem to have the ability to evenreally want to LEARN how to grow up & be responsible. It doesnt just happen magically.

You seem to want the priviledges of adulthood without wanting the responsibility of acting & doing things responsibly & without the willingness or desire to learn. Your emotioal & intellectual maturity doesnt match your age. Therapy is a good place to start with learning why.