For me, "safe" today is more about making sure I have remained in control of what I can, in fact, control -- that is, that I have not surrendered that power to others. When I was abused, I did not have that power. With the damage to my self-esteem and confidence that resulted, I was remained an esay target for those who wanted to control my life or manipulate me or take things from me. I work today to take that power back and keep it. That makes me feel safe. Life's circumstances I cannot always control -- but I can control how empowered I am when those times arrive. And I can choose who to surround myself wuth in life so that when challenges do arise, I am with people I can trust to help me. This makes me feel safe. I guess it's about feeling empowered.

hope this helps.

be well,

mtd