It's time to address the elephant in the room.

This is partly why I am having sexual issues.

Sex is supposed to be to make love and have pleasure. But as far as I can remember, it has really been my form of glue to cement the relationship.

There was one brief period where it was just about pleasure with my college BF. This way never developed with my husband.

My sister keeps telling me 'just stop having sex with your h, and he'll divorce you'. Yet, I have kept giving in to sex to 'keep trying' with him or out of fear of him really ending it.

It's been a few months with no sex now for the first time with us, and we are now in therapy.

Can anyone relate to using sex as a means of currency?