I have been in a bad marriage and I am now divorced.
Like you, I can look back now and see the things that were my fault
but I also know the things that were her fault and they were big in my eyes.
We went to a marriage counselor and as soon as the counselor started to point
out things that the ex was doing that needed to change, the ex said we don't
need counseling. We were married for 27 years and I am glad to be divorced.
That being said I know that it was right for me but not right for everyone.
I hope you get it all worked out and you can be happy.