He does this in other ways too. Now hes telling me that because I was upset about this other women, I am needy. I am bothered by him telling me that I was opposing rules on him in our relationship and Im needy when he wont allow me any time to myself with out some comment about it to cause me to feel that I have some kind of problem. He allways wants me with him all day and into the evening every day. When I take time out for myself he never really accepts this, all ways says something about to make me feel guilty or what ever. So who is needy??? Is it me? or both of us. Is he projecting on me. I'd say YES. BIG TIME. and hes blind about it too. I dont want someone here to just say to me: oh can the basird. There are obviously really wonderful atributes about this man as well. Nothing is black and white. Its just this side of him that is almost throwing me for a loop. Im supposed to be the only one with problems in this relation and nothing wrong with him. This is not right and I plan to see a counselor . I dont think I should allow myself to get hurt over this. I believe its a boundary issue. I feel if I put my foot down nicely but firmly as to having my own independent me time he's not going to love me any more. He comes on strong when he wants my attention. I know this is wrong. He acts childish. The irony of it is that he sees me as the needy female and him tottaly amuned to having the same feelings,,, ever! I cant change him, but I can change me. I have really been allowing myself to be hurt over him. I am backing off him a bit, giving him space but the truth is in this craziness is that I need space!! Its like a self image of myself he keeps trying to place on me and it isnt tottaly true. I am not that needy,,,,,, he seems to just be placing this sentence on me due to his other past gone wrong relationships. I think he feels safer doing that and is in fact being the one who is initially resposible for the failure of these relationships by having this additude. He sets up situations that bring it about and then blames the ones effected by it for it happening. he is NOT the one with the problem. no its all women who are drama queens. I say, give me a break!!!!! I guess what Im saying is he put me in this situation with him where Im damned if I do and damned if I dont. If I go off and not talk to him in the morning and do my own thing once in a while, he gets threatened and will make some comment to me to cause me to feel self conscious about what Im really doing being alone. Like Im just being childish or something. ,hiding in my room. hello? Its all ways in a joking way..but it doesnt feel good. And so Im the one who is needy??? I need a reality check here.