I wonder if that makes me a cougar then, I had a short affair with a 30 year old and I'm 41. He said no, a cradle snatcher if anything, you have to be about 50 to be a cougar. He said age is just a number too. I do think it's so rare these days to go with a younger man. Don't worry. It's all just labels. I don't think that's a big age gap. It's society's way of trying to control people, putting them in a box. If you are happy then others should be happy for you too and it shouldn't matter. Who cares what people think as long as you and the guy are happy? It's not their business anyway.