Enmeshment is an entirely different thing.
My T is always there when I need her ( well almost always at least. She always gets back to me with in 24 hrs)
But she doesn't NEED me to need her, or encourage me to need her for her own gain, which is a key factor in enmeshment/codependence.

Her goal really is MY growth and health. I am familiar with the boundary ninja blog and her T is the same as mine.

Its an excellent, thought provoking, and well written blog.