I'm sorry for your pain, GGChar. I'm in a similar position--details different, but feeling there's been lots of favoring of siblings, and I'm the one in your position, taken for granted, assumed I'll put up with anything.
I went no contact when I was 41. I feel absolutely no guilt. I have gone above and beyond. I have forgiven repeatedly, accepted the current 'being nice' as good enough. I finally heard a few things that made me see clearly they really do see me as the kicking bag of the family.
They have other children to help them out. I've done my best, and I'm not willing to be their punching bag and scapegoat.
Like your mother, mine simply never called me again. I have no idea what she thinks I did to deserve that, and to be honest, I don't care. I see them all as mentally ill. They are welcome to each other's company, and the sad truth is: I have not missed a single one of them.
It made me realize how much I was being all family-family with them because I was 'supposed to,' and not even remotely because I enjoyed their company. I haven't missed having siblings at all and it makes me realize they weren't putting anything of value in my life TO miss.
I would say just back off on the contact and see how things go. And I think you have every right to feel hurt at these things.
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