My ex-ex-T helped me with my relationship with my mom too. My mom is still around, so I was able to work things out with her. We went from hating each other to being close friends. The past still comes up for me sometimes, but I just remind myself that it's the past not the present.

I hope I can release some of the shame about my secret when I talk to T this week. Even though I worked through my issues with my mom, I still can't see how it's possible to heal some from my secret. But I have to try, right? Nothing will change if I don't change what I'm doing.