In the past it was their eyes, their hair, also someone with depth, who was honest and intelligent, I liked muscular men, big biceps were a turn on, being a leftie and interested in politics helped. I also liked being respected and that they liked me for me. Being interested in music helped. As the poster above said, now I avoid it, am hurting from someone a lot at the moment, so wouldn't go near one again. Also it wouldn't be fair on them, I have done enough damage.