I've an ongoing rupture with my T currently. It's about how she thinks she doesn't need any LGBT training despite having none. While I have a lot of presenting problems, I've brought up to her before that I experience anxiety and self-loathing due to my sexual orientation. I have considered conversion therapy, even.

She doesn't seem to get it. She basically thinks "LGB, T or cishet - people are people!" while I'm arguing that LGB and T are a population facing unique cultural issues (eg White vs Latino, African American, Asian etc). Of course I don't have a doctorate like her but everything I've read about psychotherapy, counselling and social work talks about the need for LGBT training.

Other rupture which has been resolved somewhat was her insistently asking me "Do you want to remain a victim?" I explained my view of how I feel the "victim/survivor" dichotomy is shaming and harmful. She apologised for how her words hurt me the next session when I brought it up. I thought it was resolved but then I realised I still had anger because she was apologising for her poor word choice (I have delayed reactions) but I felt like she was implying the problem lay within me. As in my interpretation of her words was causing the hurt.

The next session, I brought it up and she apologised for hurting me. So it's resolved...though I still feel sore about the "remain a victim?"...